if aol yahoo ect. have tough spam filters are there any E-mail sites that don't have probs recieving the validation e-mail??

I believe that with Yahoo and Gmail it is just a matter of first adjusting your spam settings so that anything suspect goes to the junk/bulk folder rather than getting zapped.

Personally I use UK2.net which allows fine tuning of the level of acceptable spam but again to be sure switch off the auto delete function and check your junk mail folder.