Re: Am I published? .....such a newb question...I'm so sorry...
You are really working hard at making life unecessarily difficult.
"Publishing" is a term internal to the Wizard and involves the copying of files from the Wizards internal workspace to Bravenet's live servers. You didn't use the Wizard to build your site so ignore it, leave it entirely alone.
The visual editor directly updates the live pages, there is no "publishing" as your change is already live.